The New Dirty Talk: AI Sexting and What Language Models Mean for Our Most Intimate Conversations

The way people have been getting it on online in recent years has transformed. Artificial intelligence mingles in some of the most intimate exchanges we've ever had. Yet, with language models, it's transforming not only how people engage with their desires through text, but also what it means for digital intimacy.

When you used to send a sext, you sent a sext. To another human. To something that had to wait—you'd at least come to understand that someone chastising you or denying your advances was all part of the human experience—sexting was a gamble and it was part of the excitement. But now? We've got a brave new world of sexting, thanks to natural language processing.

Sexting with AI. These sultry chatbots designed to get people off have transitioned quickly from glitchy, obvious automatons to uncanny, almost-human entities that shock users into enjoying unexpected intimacy and creativity. It allows someone to gain access to their sexual selves without the expectations and drama that would come from an actual partner.

The personalized options for AI sexting available now run parallel to some general AI virtual assistants—which only one step behind the scenes functions. This one, however, has been trained on sexualized language and responses, which, in essence, means the longer you use this AI, the more it stays on track.

Therefore, when you send a message to your AI lover, they parse your words not only for explicit and lewd meanings but also for intonations, pacing, and degrees of desire. The more personalized ones can sense what you like and provide more perverted responses the longer you engage.

Where, for example, in the last few decades there has been an institutionalized or formulaic approach to predetermined pleasure giving and receiving, much of what interactive AI does today serves as responsive engagement in a variety of contexts that could come across as spontaneous and engaging—two essential elements for successful sex.

Sexual Human Psychological Implications

The rise and subsequent virality of sexting AI almost overnight demonstrate that sexual human psychology and human relationship with technology connections run deep. For some, it's not merely convenient—it's a safe space without judgment.

But this type of emotional engagement and physical connection translates to sexual engagement as well for many, as the fantasy of anonymity and privacy with an AI partner is an added perk. Where their lives may get busy with a sext exchange or dirty talk, there's no fear of a screenshot or sex text getting leaked during an AI sexting session—these drawbacks of a digital world and human partners are, no pun intended, flushed away.

Beyond Novelty: Practical Use

Where usage of the technology is for fun and fantasy fulfillment, somewhat surprisingly, there has been some practical use for AI sexting technology as well:

• as a coupling agent—Users report using it as a relationship tool—learning new communication styles through the platforms or inspiration for their own sexting generated.

• as a sexual health advisor—AI can provide sexual health information that some are too shy to get from human ones, in a non-judgmental atmosphere about such sensitive subjects.

• as a confidence booster—Some feel more comfortable learning how to flirt with an AI and then apply that new confidence to subsequent human interactions.

Long distance relationship assistance: Couples who necessarily cannot be together all the time engage in conversation with AI-generated dialogue at times as well.

In addition, it's a substitute for people with social anxiety, those in isolated towns, or those with disabilities preventing typical dating opportunities.

The Technological Progression: From Bots to AI Sexting

The technological progression that has brought us to the sexting AI of today is drastically different from those before. The most sophisticated today include:

Characterization: Uses the same voice all the time so it feels like speaking to one cohesive person.

Empathy: Aware of how the user feels and responds.

Personalization: Adjusts based upon user input and mistakes.

Such advancements have filled in the "uncanny valley" to a much greater degree than before where it was obvious one was NOT having a conversation with an AI partner. For example, those who engage with spicy AIs admit to becoming more emotionally invested than they could have ever anticipated at the start of the engagement.

Naturally, any technology that introduces sex with humans further muddies the ethical waters. Developers and ethicists are trying to figure out:

Modified expectations of human love moving forward

Disclosure when people are engaging with AI

Limitations/age restrictions to ensure minors do not have access

Accountability of developers for proper consent and decency

But the most fascinating component is the technology that changes intimacy over time and unwittingly. The longer people grow attached to their AIs and rely upon them for intimate purposes, the harder it becomes to define intimacy.

Yet many still employ their AIs in companion-type situations and discuss them as companions with anthropomorphic traits—feeling, love, loyalty. So we could be on the verge of a transformative experience for many in the realms of companionship, validation, and even sexual fulfillment.

Whether that transformative experience is good or bad is subjective. But what is for sure is that the potential to be intimate with AI is no longer something to dream of becoming reality, but in a short time, something to dream of and subsequently create responses to, which not too long ago would have been deemed impossible.

As language models advance, the distinction between human intimate dialogue and manufactured intimacy will blur further. One could only hope to understand how intimacy will evolve in this new world.