I spent my 50th birthday in the Middle East with my sister. Traveling without kids was what I needed.

Before I got married, I used to travel with my sister a lot — but that changed once I had kids.

Apr 24, 2025 - 01:29
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I spent my 50th birthday in the Middle East with my sister. Traveling without kids was what I needed.
The author and her sister riding a camel in the Abu Dhabi desert.
Anastasia Mills Healy celebrated her 50th birthday during a trip to the Middle East with her sister.
  • Growing up, Anastasia Mills Healy's dad saw travel as a key part of her education.
  • As an adult, she continued traveling with her sister, but that stopped in her 40s when she had kids.
  • To celebrate her 50th birthday, she went on a trip with her sister to the United Arab Emirates and Oman.

Growing up with an adventurous dad, my sister and I had seen most of the US and several other countries by the time we finished college.

He saw travel as a key part of our education — we wrote book reports on the places we visited, went on historical walking tours, and hit what felt like every museum from Kentucky to Cornwall.

My sister and I don't have any other siblings, and both our parents were only children, which meant no aunts, uncles, or cousins. It was just the four of us growing up. My mom, as a bit of a reluctant traveler, sometimes skipped our trips.

When our parents passed, I was married, had two young children, and worked part time while being the primary caregiver.

My sister and I lived across the country from each other — she was in California and I was in Connecticut. My sister, who doesn't have children, visited us several times a year.

I had kids late, at 40 and 41. In my single years, my sister and I traveled together and encountered a leopard in our South African safari lodge, parasailed above Key West, and pogoed at a Ramones gig in Brixton.

Over the years, our time together had morphed from tapas bar hopping in Barcelona to taking my children to a nearby playground. We were never able to finish a sentence without an interruption from a toddler.

Sister time

For my 50th birthday, I was determined that we should go on another adventure together.

I convinced my then-husband to watch the kids for a week during their spring break, while my sister and I finally embarked on another adventure. I lobbied that he wouldn't have to worry about homework, packing lunches, or getting them to and from school.

Despite the reasonably priced trip to the Middle East I had found, my sister took a bit of convincing — she wasn't as eager to explore that part of the world.

The travel package I booked included eight countries in one trip: all seven emirates of the United Arab Emirates — Abu Dhabi, Dubai, Sharjah, Ajman, Umm Al Quwain, Ras Al Khaimah, and Fujairah — plus a stop in Oman. I paid $1,100 for airfare and four nights in Dubai. The other stops, plus a rental car, and seven nights of hotels added on about $1,900 more.

100 country goal

After checking off all 50 US states by my 30th birthday, I set my sights on a new goal: visiting 100 countries.

I follow the criteria set by the Traveler's Century Club, a group I hope to join one day. The club recognizes 330 "countries and territories," including all seven emirates of the United Arab Emirates as separate destinations.

I mapped out a driving route that added Oman, which helped me get one more country.

Once I've visited 100 countries, I'll be eligible to apply.

Women floating by the Dolphin Khasab Tours boat in Oman.
The author's sister floated near the tour boat in Oman.

Kid-free travel bliss

As a travel professional and penguin lover, two experiences from the trip stood out as the best: a tour of the extraordinary Burj Al Arab hotel, with its gold lamé wallpaper and helipad, and the pure joy of having a tiny penguin hop across my lap.

The second experience took place at an indoor ski area in Dubai, located inside a mall. It was complete with a ski lift and resident penguins.

Other highlights included a visit to the Louvre Abu Dhabi, a stroll around the Sheikh Zayed Grand Mosque, and a ride up Dubai's Burj Khalifa, the tallest building in the world. That's where we had a quiet cocktail to celebrate my half-century, overlooking the spouting fountains 122 floors below.

Cocktail at the 122nd floor of the Burj Khalifa in Dubai.
The author celebrated her birthday with a cocktail at the top of Dubai's Burj Khalifa.

A lot of the trip would have been too complicated with my children. For example, the spa day wouldn't have been possible with kids. I also explored the Dubai Design District, shopped in souks, walked through the Al Fahidi Historic District, and spent a day on a boat in Oman.

Throughout the trip, I knew that had it been a family trip, the kids would have complained about the heat and the food.

Freedom made this trip possible

Put on your own oxygen mask before helping others, the airlines say. I concur. Women give so much, and we need — and deserve — the time to breathe and recharge. I've taken my children on as many trips as I could.

Now, I'm 57, divorced, and we — my kids, my sister, and I — just explored my 72nd country. In a few years, when my kids are grown and flown, my sister and I will embark on more far-flung adventures.

My plan is for her to accompany me to my 100th country. It only makes sense — she's been there for all the pivotal moments in my life.

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